Whether you’re dealing with a wild horse, an abused horse, or a horse that just doesn’t trust you, or want to hang out with you… how can you genuinely shift that relationship to where the horse freely chooses to be around you?
Sure, we can put a halter or a bridle on a horse (or lasso it!) and coerce, manipulate, train that horse to respond the way we want. But if you want something deeper, if you want something truly authentic, that comes from pure, free, empowered choice… check out this video and immerse yourself in the story.
Jini Patel Thompson is a natural health writer and Lazer Tapping instructor. She began riding at age 2 in Kenya, and got her first horse at age 8 in Alberta, and so continues a life-long journey and love affair with these amazing creatures.
16 thoughts on “The Simplest Way to Increase Connection with your Horse”
Gorgeous piece. I laughed out loud at the ‘not touching’ bit as it has been a *huge* deal for me to learn to keep my grabby little hands to myself and to acknowledge to it as a need (albeit masquerading as benevolent affection) to control. Very character building(!) -but it also gifted me with the space to see the nuance of their communication with me when it wasn’t being obscured by me channeling Marcel Marceau lol.
Oh lord Dee, you DO make me laugh! Sometimes I actually put my hands behind my back and clasp them there. Then the horses are like, what?? No scratches?! Well what use are you then? 🙂
Yep. I’ve channelled that Brigadier General inspecting the troops pose too! And been rewarded for not touching by massive, snot spraying, outward breaths – which God help us only another horse person would understand why I’m thrilled and not grossed 😂😂😂
Right?? The only saliva I don’t mind is horse saliva – dogs, husband, kids, forget it!!
Would you be able to a whole post on what it means for a horse (or a human) to be “dissociated” from her body, and how this happens? You have so much brilliant material on energetic healing for these once they have developed, but how do we know if it has happened or is happening? I resonate so deeply with Zorra’s unwillingness to be ridden after my experience in the military. There is nothing worse than having no power over your own body or actions. I don’t want to do further damage to horses, my rabbits, my birds, or myself, but because I feel a bit “dissociated” from my body myself, I currently have little ability to center/ground myself (working daily on “As Above, So Below”) and so no certain understanding if I am communicating properly at all. I also am not confident to do the EFT tapping you have shown us on myself. Thank you.
That is SUCH a great question Evie!! And you’re right, you often don’t know that you’re not IN your body until you heal to the point where all of a sudden you can feel your body, from the inside. I remember the first time I could feel myself walking IN my legs and I realized then that I had never felt or been inside my legs before! I think that coming back into our bodies is a process… but I’m wondering now if there’s a way to do a workshop on this topic – online but with the horses. The horses have been giving me ideas about this and so we’re now working on the tech side of how to make this happen. I’ll let you know if I come up with anything. Or, as you suggested, perhaps an article about it… Namaste sistah xo
Thank you so much!
I would love so more information on this too. Somewhere along my life path I picked up the habit of making myself numb as a protective mechanism, and now it is very difficult to get rid off. But at least in the last couple of years I have recognised it, I suppose. Obviously it makes sensing energy from the horses impossible.
Great news ladies! We took Evie’s question to the horses, and some pretty cool things happened in response. We filmed it all and it is now in the process of being edited 🙂 Make sure you’re Subscribed so you’re notified the minute it’s published. Interestingly, the new foals – Xadaa and Posa – both had things to say. And Kaliah showed us, by example, a powerful way to process/move through dissociative trauma – when the time is right. SO excited to see the finished vid!!
I gain so much insight, directed loving intent and tons of peace from everyone sharing. Sometimes I am so overwhelmed with emotions, especially about the wildies, that I have to step back and reground myself. I also experience a lot of crying, laughing and BIG smiling. filling me with joy that you share so much of yourself and your path of truth and honor.
My question watching this video is, would it have been a truer reaction from the wildies to have removed the dogs and the horses that preceded the wildies into the forest? My logical side says that the dogs added their energetic intent and the wildies were influenced by scent and energy from the other horses.
Loving peace and joy to all,
Hi Paulette, yes I think you’re right that the dogs, other horses, humans, coyotes, wind level etc all added information or influence to the situation. Guliz briefly mentions in the video that the neighbour kids playing paintball in that forest (you can see the pieces of wood left that they hid behind while shooting at each other) a week ago also left the feeling of ‘danger’ behind. None of us exists in a vacuum, so really how can we say what is ‘true’ or not? It simply IS – with everything past, present (some would say even future) contained within the whole.
And SO glad you’re enjoying and getting so much out of the videos – that’s very encouraging 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful experience with us.
I sooooo loved watching this. And of course listening to Guliz as she was translating the horses feelings and emotions…. i had to laugh out loud when she was telling ‘don’t touch’ them , or ‘resist touching them from your ego’. Because i do know that beauty and innocence can be ‘stolen’ energetically, and as her mother , i watched Guliz ward off and be repelled by certain (most)peoples looks and touches when she was an innocent baby and child…. “oh look how cute she is (and she was, big brown eyes and all) ” she would physically shrink away and kind of growl ….and she, like the horses ,was and is very sensitive to look and touch, thus her work with the world of horses, who else but someone like her would understand them so well?
oh my gosh, I never even thought of that – but yes, she must have been absolutely adorable as a baby/young child! But it’s true, when you have really cute kids, even total strangers are drawn in and want to reach out and touch.
I have been practising not touching for quite sometime now (about 6 months mbe more) after watching this vid, and yes it is quite a discipline to keep my hands off! lol. I have learnt to enjoy just being with Jarrah. Every now and then the grabby thing pops up but overall I am content to just hang out.
Now I am able to read him more and our relationship has evolved into a much more trusting space.
Touch has slowly come into being and I’ve learnt his fav spots for scratching, yet it does change too!
I show him the brush before I launch into brushing and I know when its ok to go ahead or not. He even moves to show me where he wants scratches. I am able to pickup on subtle cues he gives more so now, but still learning! lol
I try not to assume it will be the same each time we have a scratching/brushing sesh and stay open to what he wants.
He will now let me give him a kiss on the nose or neck occasionally. I kind of feel him out first and dont barge into his space. It has been an amazing journey so far.
Thankyou soooo much for sharing your stories it has helped Jarrah and I very much and Im sure it will continue to do so.
What a wonderful way to be with these magnificent beings.
What fantastic progress/development Erin! I LOVE hearing your stories and I love how you describe this dance of suggestion-permission-increasing trust xox
When I have the opportunity I will see if I can get someone to vid a scratching sesh so you can see the progress its so cool, and email it off blog.
I have also come up with a fab way of reaching his back as he’s almost 17h and I’m only 5’2″. I stand on 2 mineral/salt blocks he he! very stable so I dont accidently get knocked off. Though J is quite careful and moves over if it’s too close. What a treasure! When they wear down I’ll have to come up with another plan!
This channel has saved my sanity and nourished my soul. THANKYOU! My heart is bursting with love for you all.