Healing Ancestral Pain

By Juliet Ghodsian

Today Jini and I arrived at the barn with a sense of openness and expectation. It felt like today would be the day that Cobra was ready to fully release the anger and pain he has been holding towards the humans who traumatized him. What followed for me, as we went into session with Cobra, was an experience of emotional space-holding from which I could witness and honor the depth of his pain and grief.

I experienced a deep sense of awe at his ability to have carried such pain and rage inside of himself from trauma enacted upon him by men, and yet, he was able to integrate himself into an environment with humans and learn to build trust, ask for healing, and write himself a new story.

After Cobra’s deep healing, we left him to integrate on his own and spent some time with Aude off down the barn road with the forest behind us. We spoke of many things, as Jini and I often do. Particularly we began describing what it is like to work with this powerful herd of healing beings, and how they accelerate your pace of healing and activation.

As we spoke, I had a realization and started to say out loud: “It’s almost as if they can feel any dissonant vibration in your energy field, any incongruence, any inauthenticity and then they–” My intent was to say that they pull it into your awareness to be healed. Instead, what happened at that exact moment, was that directly behind us in the forest, a huge tree started to fall, and crashed loudly for several seconds until it came to rest on the forest floor. Jini and I both jumped up and turned to look into the forest. Aude ran up, nervously watching the trees. What does that mean? Why did that happen? Jini felt I needed a minute alone to process the message that had just been given. She said never in her five years on this property has she heard or seen a tree fall in these woods. And this was a huge tree.

I sat alone on the barn road, several concerns flashing across my mind. I have been changing and growing at an extremely accelerated pace in the past 3 years, since what I would describe as a “spiritual awakening” experience. I realize now that all my helpers, my higher self, the Universe, whatever you would like to call these forces, have been slowly helping me release old unhealthy patterns that no longer serve me, and connecting me with my highest divine path.

Why was the tree falling? In the moment I fixated on the most recent stressor in my life: my marriage. This has been an ongoing source of pain and indecision for me, for 2 years. Realizing I am living in an unhealthy, emotionally co-dependent, passive-aggressive relationship pattern. Up until this day, my feeling has been that I need to leave this relationship, and I have struggled back and forth with trying to allow things to grow and change organically, as I myself grow and change. To focus on the highest and best path for all involved: my children, my husband, myself. Yet my focus would always seem to fall on: ‘If I can just find a partner who is a better fit for me, someone who will finally love and accept me as I am, and will celebrate me and value my unique contribution to this life.’ A small voice (just this very morning) as I drove out to the barn would whisper: Don’t make this about him. That is of course the truthful path, but the truth is often the most painful to see and actually absorb.

After the tree fall and the massive energy surge that happened because of it, the herd is now very uneasy. The horses have changed places, so now Makah-Mahpee and Posa join me on the barn road, inspecting the area, but they are very jumpy. Suddenly Xadaa whinnies a distress call, because she can no longer see Posa and Makah. Aude is off at the water trough and comes galloping back to the barn whinnying her own distress call. At this point the whole herd is on edge. I have started to become very cold inside. I can feel the fear in the herd. I can feel the fear in myself. I’m shivering. My teeth are chattering. I start to carry the chairs back to the shed while the herd is moving about agitated.

Jini calls out, “ This is about you, Juliet.”
The two babies: Posa and Xadaa are now in the hay enclosure with Makah.
“They are three, Juliet. If you go in there, you will be four.”
My two teenage daughters, my husband, and me.
I join them in the enclosure and they are continuously milling about me. Makah is just as nervous as the girls. I’m so cold. I stand against the fence.
Xadaa comes up to stand right in front of me. I reach my hands out to her hoping for warmth. She tells me “It is your choice. Stand in your power as a woman, as a mother. It must be your choice.”

Then Makah leaves the enclosure and Cobra replaces him. At this point I start crying. I feel like the herd is showing me that one man needs to leave and another needs to come in. I feel afraid. The energy of the herd does not calm down, if anything it becomes more intense. Cobra is a powerful being. Posa and Xadaa are spooking and jostling around. Cobra comes up to me and is using strong signalling with his pinned ears. I don’t feel safe, so I move away to the far end.

As I stand there, Makah comes up behind me, on the other side of the arena panel. In hindsight I understand now that he was trying to help me see that it wasn’t about the male in the pen, it was about me.

However, at the time I am overwhelmed by the intensity and do not feel safe inside the pen. I slip out of the pen, to the other side of the gate. Cobra comes right up to my front. I feel Zorra behind and to my right. Cobra begins engaging me as he did once before when he was teaching me energy management: As I could settle my energy and become still, he would draw closer and touch his face to mine. If I had any rising anxiety or fear, he would put his ears back and jerk his head at me. Despite the fact that in the past he had nipped out at me after such signalling, I knew in this moment that he would not bite me. Instead I looked up into his eye and I started repeating over and over: “I trust you. I trust you. I trust you.”

As I said this, I felt warmth spreading from his heart into mine, and the shaking inside of me finally started to ease. My teeth stopped chattering. He shared his breath with me and I shared mine with him for a few moments. I had a minor awareness that Zorra was working with the outer layers of my mental energy field and was clearing old fear patterns.

The crazy thing, is that in this moment, I thought it was my chance to help finalize a piece of Cobra’s healing. At the end of his session I had felt that what he most needed was to receive complete love and trust from the humans around him. However, what became profoundly clear to me in the coming days, was that we were helping each other to heal the wounds of deep trauma and broken trust in our hearts and energy bodies.

I went into the shed to see Jini. She commented on how crazy intense that was and I didn’t need to share if it was too much. All I know is that suddenly I was sobbing uncontrollably from feelings of overwhelm, uncertainty, indecisiveness. A tree was falling inside of me. Jini hugged me and said three words to me: “I’ve got you.” It broke apart something so deep inside of myself that I could not have found the language to speak it in that moment. I knew without a shadow of a doubt that she did “have me.” I could cry an ocean of tears and pain on her shoulder and she would stand in compassion, love and non-judgment. I realized I had never truly experienced that in my life. I realized when I touched into that pain, that this was not about a husband, or a marriage. This was about my mother. This was about her mother. This was about the women of my family line. This was about generational trauma and sexual abuse. This was about women who stayed silent and would not allow themselves to see or speak the truth of abuse when it was right in front of their face, because the consequences of speaking that truth felt too high, too destructive, too scary. This is about how the repercussions of that silent abuse echo through the DNA of all the children that are born into this trauma cycle.

To go into all the layers of how this history has deeply affected me would take much too long and is much too personal. What is important I believe, is to understand how subtle trauma can be; how we as innocent souls arriving into the arms of flawed, wounded humans can unwittingly absorb and live out their pain, their victimhood, their patterns. I realized after this experience with Cobra and the herd that not only did I deeply distrust men, I also did not trust other women. I basically had a deeply buried belief that people cannot be trusted with your heart. They will not show up to emotionally support and validate you in the moment when you most need them to. In the end they will always hurt and disappoint you. The learning for me in all of this, is that the child inside of me was scared and afraid to trust anyone. She was born into a family dynamic and DNA that held generations of fear and trauma. Then, life went on to re-create and perpetuate these ideas back to her. Unless and until we can bring these hidden patterns to conscious awareness they cannot be healed.

We have to be willing to face THE TRUTH of who we are and what we are creating, with complete vulnerability and fearless courage. The energy patterns, thought patterns, and DNA patterns that we carry can only be changed if they can be SEEN, HEARD, FELT and then finally, accepted and released. This is how we break the cycle and heal the ancestral pain.

Thank you Cobra, Thank you Jini, Thank you Singing Horse Herd. I will never be the same.

AUTHOR BIO: Dr. Juliet Ghodsian is a dancer, singer, herbalist, counsellor and naturopathic physician. She specializes in holistic mind/body healing for gut disorders, hormonal issues and autoimmune disease. Originally from Illinois, Juliet lived and worked in Ecuador and Argentina, and now lives in Vancouver Canada.

Healing Ancestral Pain

8 thoughts on “Healing Ancestral Pain

  • July 5, 2020 at 7:38 am
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    Absolutely beautiful- in every way- the revelations and the process. Amazing work.

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  • July 5, 2020 at 10:44 pm
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    Thank you for sharing and your vulnerability. It resonates strongly with my recent experience with G. I hold space for your healing.

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  • July 6, 2020 at 7:16 am
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    Hello, Good Doctor, (and Jini and all related to The Singing Herd),
    The transforming power of Love seems to always begin with moments of small cracks in our world as we know it. We are often surprised by these signals that changes are ‘a com’in. Often we ignore the initial signs, we really do not want to suffer the chaos and heart wrenching sorrow we need to wrestle with so we can move into our new life; learning how to navigate a new playing field. If we allow the transformation to occur, the pain becomes so violent we end up curled and screaming. Like Cobra and you (and me), Good Doctor, there is a moment in all this where we acknowledge that we are willing to go through to that new place and when we do, wow, does Love move through us touching and lancing. Oh, the burn of the lance! We become new, hardly knowing ourselves; startled by how much power and renewal we suddenly have. Full. We latch onto the power to move and stand up and become our being. It takes courage and a tremendous trust to let Love have Its way. In my experience, after, when moving in the newness, it has always been worth the cost to be molded by Love.
    Once upon a time, when I was penniless, I finally gave in and ran away from domestic violence with four little children and had to rely on welfare and the system to survive, I was still in love with my husband. The pain of separation was excruciating; I walked that path on faith and trust alone as I could not see how terrible and toxic our relationship. My then four year old diagnosed deaf and mute son was being educated as a special needs person. Up to that point, this sweet boy never uttered a sound. I was standing in this strange apartment/safe house, uncontrollable tears streaming out of me, with no beds or food (there were cleaning supplies left in the cabinets -tells you what the owners thought about us people), when my boy yanked on my leg and began talking to me in full sentences. His voice brought me out of myself and at that moment, startled and feeling the spark of joy-fully healed, together, the five of us, began this new journey of light and life. I learned how to step forward with Love and I’ve never regretted my new playing field.
    I will pray that you too, Good Doctor, will lean into the chaos and let the transformation be you even as you hear resenting voices that want to keep you in your old life; believe that Love will guide you.
    Love you in a very special way,
    Claudia

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    • July 9, 2020 at 8:31 pm
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      Claudia your story is truly amazing. I cannot believe the power of the experience with your wee one – that must have been enough to get you through the incredibly difficult life-building that followed. If you ever needed a sign that you had 100% done the RIGHT thing, I can’t think of anything more powerful!

      This line that you wrote is me, right now:

      “we really do not want to suffer the chaos and heart wrenching sorrow we need to wrestle with so we can move into our new life; learning how to navigate a new playing field.”

      Aside from not knowing HOW I’m going to action what I’m being led towards, there is the continual to-and-fro of not wanting to either! As you said, the challenge is to “lean into the chaos” and let the transformation ensue. The hornets/wasps at the barn are sending a similar message – harness the swirling chaos; learn to align with it. xox

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  • July 6, 2020 at 1:45 pm
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    Thank you both so much for your loving, supportive words. Thank you Claudia for sharing your story. So beautiful that your courage and trust in your innate wisdom was what freed your young son’s voice! Wow. This is such a good reminder that we must allow the chaos of change to come in even if we feel that it will break down all that we know. There is a beauty to be found on the other side of the pain of change and transformation.

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  • July 8, 2020 at 6:45 am
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    So powerful! I have a lot of sexual abuse in my past by one girl (friend) and many men! Although I have tried to always tell myself it doesn’t severely affect me …I have recently realized it is most likely the source of my struggle with friendships! I have such complex emotions when it comes to friends…especially with women! when I find someone I feel I can relate to I tend to dive deeply in and do so much then feel so let down when it’s not reciprocated! I realize this about me not them! I’m not sure how to heal this but I know when I am ready to do the work the horses will help me! Right now life is to busy and I am not emotionally ready! But I also know at 51 time is important and I need to face this! My inner self just wants to disappear with the horses & my husband into the Forrest and never return to humans! Animals have always been my peace and salvation and humans always so complicated and complex!
    Your healing is our healing and so on and so on! Writing it down is very cathartic and I know your vulnerability will help us all in some way! Appreciation & gratitude to you and Jini and the horses! ✌🏼💚🐴

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  • July 12, 2020 at 4:04 am
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    Wow! beautiful sharings! Thankyou for being
    so vulnerable.
    It seems like horse/human healings are ratcheting up a notch or two.
    I too, have walked (still walking)the path of healing from childhood sexual abuse and all I can say is you will do it when you’re ready and there are heaps of us out there to love and cheer you on.

    This post reminds me of a poem I wrote awhile ago called

    Suffering my Gift-
    Its taken awhile to really appreciate you
    my gift ,my liberation
    for without you
    I would not enter
    the dark corners of my heart
    to rend it in two
    allowing it to bleed and cleanse
    exposing
    binding thoughts
    raging emotions
    long ago supressed
    buried deep
    so no one,
    not even i could see

    you come to me
    giving freedom and grace
    growing me strong
    compassionate
    loving
    able to withstand the storms
    for there are none more fierce
    than these

    you are not something to escape from
    but to be embraced
    for you hold the key
    with courage
    i take your hand
    and walk my path
    I thank you
    for your great reward.
    ej 13.12.16
    I hope this is an encouragement!
    Much love and big hugs
    Erin 💚🌳🐎

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    • August 5, 2020 at 10:48 pm
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      Thank you Erin for sharing this beautiful poem! I love it. I’m just reading this today and obviously, not accidentally, also received a message today that “deep in my heart I will find the key to becoming free” and what I will find there is courage.
      Xoxo

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